Submit to your Husband (Part 1)
In a 3rd wave feminist’s world, the idea of being in submission to a man is taboo, to say the least. Some may consider it treason against women, self-hatred, or at worst, a fetish.
However, being in submission to your husband is God’s true plan for marriage, and it is beautiful.
Submission works well because it is nature's design. In a world where gender norms are blurred, and straight-up diminished it is still undeniable that men want to be in control and depended upon. In return, women want to be cared for, loved, cherished, and for their needs as a wife and mothers to be met.
Luckily for me, I understand the true benefits of submission because they were taught to me when I was young. I practiced them from an early age, and I have been through points in my life when I chose not to practice them (bad idea).
But my most influential experience with submission came from watching the relationships of my friends over the years (and yes, I’m here to tell you all the tea about them).
My girlfriends were all typical millennial women raised on the idea that they are independent women who don’t need a scrub. They were brainwashed into believing the lies that pop culture, and the mass media fed us. The repetitive lie that women don’t need a man to fulfill them, and that in fact, a man (and a family) could potentially hold them back from what they truly desired (freedom and money).
My girlfriends went through countless relationships, that burned heavy at the beginning and then would eventually burn out leaving them choking on toxic fumes. They had babies from various men and overworked themselves just to make ends meet. They only saw their children after a day of hard work and commuting through rush hour. Which by then they were tired and hardly had the energy that is required to be a mother.
They were angry with the men who had left them the responsibility of raising children, and every one of them was perpetually miserable. They were all miserable even though they had designer bags, name-brand shoes, nice cars, and all the things that consumerism had convinced them they would need.
My friends always had those things in common (more on that later) and my friendships with them all ended in a similar way. They each asked me for my advice on their relationships (considering my own relationship is ongoing from high school). When I gave them my opinions and shared with them all the ways that help my marriage work, I eventually lost my friendships.
But I believe in submission, and I enjoy the fruits of its labor each day of my life. I wish I could share all the ins and outs of it with you all today, but this website is new, and my time is limited. But I plan to share more and more in the days to come.
As for today, I would like to share the top reasons why I choose this beautiful lifestyle.
1. It’s the type of relationship that God intended.
When God created us, He did so in his image. First, he created Adam. When Adam found himself lonely and unfulfilled God put him to sleep, took a single rib from his side, and from that rib He created Eve. He created for him the perfect mate for man and Adam called her "Woman" because she came from Adam and was intended to be his helper.
Later on, in the bible, it states that women should be in submission to their man( Ephesians 5:22-24) that she does not lead a man (1 Corinthians 11:3), and that submitting your husband is fitting to the Lord (Colossians 3:18). Over the course of my 20-year relationship, I’ve learned that when I practice this style of relationship everything around me is blessed, and life is easier.
2. It alleviates stress.
There was a point in my life where I believed all the hype of being an independent woman. I had convinced myself that I didn’t need my husband to provide for me because I could provide for myself. I worked mandatory overtime, paid all my own bills, and purchased all the styles I wanted to wear. It was exhausting, I was experiencing anxiety and many episodes of depression. Alternatively, allowing my husband to lead and provide afforded me the luxury to relax and enjoy the fruits of the labor he takes pride in doing. It feels good to have my needs met while I focus on the very things that are the most important, which are caring for the children, the pets, the home, and the plants. Being stress-free and allowing my better half to meet those needs also frees me up to have the energy to explore my interests and creative side.
3. It makes us closer
I’ll say it again, and if you follow this website you will find that I will say it 100 more times. God's perfect design was for a woman to be in submission to her man. And when she is in submission to him, she meets his needs, and in return, he meets hers. This makes for a harmonious dance between the two and draws them closer and more dependent on each other. In a world that celebrates independence, individuality, and autonomy this can seem like a counterproductive idea. But as daunting as it may sound, being closer and bound to someone is God’s plan for us. That is why deep inside we all crave to be admired, loved, cared for, and appreciated. These things happen when we allow ourselves to fully bond and get close to a person. That kind of bonding comes from a relationship built on meeting the carnal and undeniable needs that we all have.
4. It simply feels good
Being in submission and Christ-like obedience to my Husband spills over into every aspect of my life. It's influential in the choices I make, from what I wear and eat, to how I carry myself and even how I treat others. I love my husband with all my heart and soul, and I live for being his helper (as he is equally mine). I love the way that he treats me. My husband recognized that I am the weaker sex, and he does his best job to take care of me and protect me. He loves to make sure I have all my needs met and that simply feels good. There are not any fancy words or similes needed here. It simply feels good to be cared for, spoiled, and cherished.
If you are interested, I would love to answer questions and talk more about my submitted lifestyle. What do you think? If you have questions, topic suggestions send them to me. If you live a similar lifestyle what are your thoughts? If you would never participate in this type of lifestyle explain to me why not.